Coparenting through Separation: Ending Your Marriage in the Kids Best Interest

I just cleaned my ex-husband’s bathroom, stocked his fridge with the list he sent me, and wiped down his grimy kitchen counters. I have classical music playing in the livingroom and the kids are quietly doing their homework. In a few minutes, he will arrive home to a more orderly house, with dinner ingredients laid out and ready to be cooked.  I will kiss my kids goodbye and head out for dinner with a friend. Why am I going out of my way to clean his house and buy his groceries?  After all of the nastiness of separation, and 5…

Marriages, Like Start-Ups, Should Fail Fast

Most marriage books tell you to keep trying, work harder, hang in there, ride out the tough spots.  I’m here to tell you that is bullshit.  If you marriage is in trouble, fail fast. My husband and I are in the process of separating.  As emotionally exhausting as this process has been, we have both committed to working together.  We are coparenting, more or less on the same page, with the help of our mediator. By “Failing Fast” we got out of our toxic relationship in the nick of time.  What do I mean by this?  We ended things while…

How to Travel in Europe on a Budget, with Kids!

Europe is definitely not most people’s idea of a wallet friendly destination.  A sunny beach in Mexico would be better, or anywhere in South America? Sure!  But I wanted to go to Europe this summer, so I made it happen, on my Flight, Accommodation, and Transportation (FAT) budget of $1,200 per week for myself and two daughters.  I’ve just finalized my last booking for our 5 week trip through England, Spain, France, Norway and Iceland, and wanted to share how I made it happen! Book one-way flights using credit card miles.  Pay only taxes and fees. Book rental car early,…

Setting your Travel Budget

I love Google spreadsheets for keeping my travel spending organized.  I keep a running tally of each trip, so I know how much its costing me.  My spreadsheets include Flights, Accommodations, and Transportation (FAT).   I don’t include food or museum/entertainment in my FAT budget.  Why?  Because even when we are home we have to eat, and we end up spending about the same on groceries as when we are traveling.  We may eat out a few more times than at home, but on the other hand, I’m not paying for camp lunch fees, nor am I going out drinking with…

Traveling on a Budget!

Budget is a terrible word.  It conjures up images of belt tightening, of self-limiting, of deprival.  But that’s not how I use it.  When I say budget, I mean thinking about how I like to travel, and figuring out how much that costs.  Then I figure out how long I can afford to travel like that.  That’s my budget! I am a reformed vagabond backpacker who has distant memories of living in Spain as a 17 year old, wandering around Morocco and sleeping on various friends couches.  That’s not how I like to habitate on the road at this juncture…